Hey Guys! I hope you all are doing Good. In today’s article, we will talk about being an Alpha male. We shall also discuss certain things you think make you look alpha but in reality, they make you look weak and immature!
We have talked about immaturity before as well. Check out: 15 Things that Make Men Look Immature for more information on that.
That said, what If I told you that you are not an Alpha Male?
It must be heartbreaking for you to hear, especially if you have always considered yourself a Masculine Specimen.
Who is an “Alpha Male” though?
Internet is full of Memes about Alpha Male. There was a time when being called Alpha would make a person dance for an entire day! It was considered one of the finest compliments.
But then Toxic Masculinity came in the Market.
And people started doing a lot of “Not-so-Alpha” things and kept on naming them as “Things that make you an Alpha male”.
With the passage of time, those who were the real Alpha male started running away from their Title and the community of Toxic Men took over it.
Definition of a True Alpha
Guys! Let me tell you the real meaning of “Alpha”. Following are a couple of traits that make you the real Alpha.
- Being Alpha means to set the Standards High! We are talking about the Personality Standards boy! Being a better person, kind, and mature counts in.
- The alpha male is a role model of the entire room. Masculinity, Dressing Sense, and the Level of Grooming, everything counts.
- Leadership Qualities.
- Great Communication Skills.
- Being able to control the situation no matter how worst it gets.
And the list goes on!
With all that being said, let’s talk about some of the things which you think make you look alpha male but in reality, those things make you look weak!
My goal with today’s article is to help you identify and eliminate the toxic traits & habits from within yourself. Once these traits are eliminated, you are going to shine bright like a diamond and no doubt you will then become Alpha Male in the real sense.
Things You Think Make you Look Alpha Male (You look Weak!)
- Maintaining a Rude Face on a Constant Basis.
- Mentioning your achievements over and over again (Being Self-Centered).
- Wearing Dark Coloured Clothing Only.
- Proudly Ignoring your Self-Care Regimen.
- Too loud Body Language.
- “Real Alphas don’t take orders from other Alphas”.. Wrong!
- Not taking Selfies, thinking that only the Betas do that.
- Standing up for the others even if they don’t want that (Imposed Leadership).
- Throwing the Blame off of your shoulders.
- Being Strong even if you are almost dead from the inside.
- You use the wrong ways to impress women.
- Telling People to do things, instead of asking.
- Never Appreciating Others.
That’s it. This in front of you is the list of things that make you look weak (definitely not an Alpha). Let’s dig deep into each of these things to discuss them in detail. Shall we?
1: Maintaining a Rude Face on a Constant Basis
We all have been told that maintaining a serious and angry face is going to make others believe that you are an Alpha Male.
Nah! This isn’t the truth.
Being Serious all the time instead makes you look non-friendly and for sure it makes you look rude.
Nah! Please don’t think that you are going to look mysterious by maintaining an angry face all the time. It is entirely the opposite of that.
So what you should be doing Instead?
- You should Maintain a Serious face but do not forget to smile back. It is a friendly gesture.
- A serious face does not mean an angry or rude face. Please identify the difference.
Laughing or smiling all the time without any reason is going to destroy your respect so that is not something that I am going to recommend to you.
Ok, leave everything aside, all you wanna do is to make sure that you stay poised, and keep your expressions elegant. And do not forget to pass a smile when you should.
Passing a smile at somebody is a friendly gesture as I told you before as well. It helps you make better bonding with people, create good relations, and make your friendships even purer.
Thinking that maintaining a rude face is going to increase your respect and make you look like an Alpha male, is stupidity. It isn’t real Bros. Doing that will only ruin your chances of making a better bonding with people. That’s it.
2: Mentioning your achievements over and over again (Being Self-Centered)
“You got to talk about achievements and capabilities to make others understand your real value”.
Wrong. Well, it is partially correct, but mostly wrong. Let me explain.
I have seen men talking about their achievements over and over again. They seem to always bring themselves in, whenever something positive and great is being discussed.
Dude! This does not increase your respect. It is a cocky thing to do.
Guess what? Always talking about yourself and bringing your achievements in the conversation all the time is going to make you look annoying.
And then you start blaming them for maintaining a distance from you. Nah! It’s not that they are fake or selfish. It’s about you.
Nah Boy, they are not the one who used you and then left you midway.
You are the one who annoyed them by constantly directing the conversation towards yourself. Alpha males target the conversation towards the other person, making them feel special. By doing that you win their trust and for sure the bond between the two becomes stronger.
And as a result they start respecting you even more.
But here you are, thinking that bragging about yourself, stating things that have nothing to do with you (in reality), boasting about your wealth, etc., is going to make you look Alpha.
Wrong! It makes you look weak. It shows that you are in constant need of external validation. And that you need someone to constantly say good things about you, for you to spend your life happily.
More about Confidence and External Validation here: 12 Clear Signs You are More Confident than you Think!
3: Wearing Dark Colored Clothing Only
Yes, dark-colored clothing makes you look mysterious and it sure does make you look like an Alpha male.
But does it mean that you should wear dark colored clothing only?
True Alpha males love to experiment. They know the importance of color matching and they do realize that one needs to experiment by mixing and matching different clothing items to come up with a bunch of great outfits.
Dark colors or going for the monochrome look can make you look good effortlessly, but where is the experimentation part here?
I just told you that Alpha males experiment. They mix and match different colors and they end up looking great in Pink color as well.
The key is to do the research and make mistakes over and over again until you learn to match different clothing items (and colors) to make great outfits!
In short, if you think that wearing dark colors is the only thing that makes you look alpha male then guess what? It is sad to put this fact in front of you but Alpha males always look unique. It’s because they always come up with great outfit combinations that are the result of research and unique color combinations.
Alpha is about being unique and sexy, not about being safe and sexy. Be Different, be Alpha.
4: Proudly Ignoring your Self-Care Regimen
Next in the List of Things You Think Make you Look Alpha Male (You look Weak!) is to ignore your self-care regimen proudly.
I am talking men who think that being raw is masculine and sexy.
Who the Heck told you that?
I mean, just look at your skin for a second. It looks rough as Freak. You need a Proper Morning and Nighttime Routine ASAP!
Morning Skincare Routine for Men (Copied from the Notebook of an Alpha Male):
You wanna Grab 5 Products from the Store. The first one has to be the Cleanser. The function of a Cleanser is to Go into your Pores and Clean all the Dirt and Excess Oil. It’s essential to have Fresh Looking Skin.
Once you are Done Cleansing (Make sure that you Do it gently in circular Motion), You wanna Use a Towel or a Soft Piece of Cloth to Clean your Face. Now is the Time to Apply Moisturiser.
Again, you wanna Grab a Moisturiser according to Your Skin Type. Our Goal with Moisturising is to Give back the Water and Useful Stuff. The final goal is to Get Glowing Skin.
Now is the Right Time to Apply a Good Quality UVA and UVB protecting Sun Block. Sun throws off 2 kinds of rays that are harmful to your skin. One is UVA and the Other one is UVB. These rays are responsible for damages like Ageing and Tanning.
So you wanna make sure that the Sun Block you are Getting is best suitable for your Environment. And It should be able to protect you from both the UVA and UVB rays.
Nighttime Skincare Routine for Men (Copied from the Notebook of an Alpha Male):
All You Need are 4 Products. First thing First, It’s the Cleansing Time. You came Home after working Maybe 6-7 Hours. Chances are that your Skin Looks tired and there Could be Dirt inside your Pores. We must remove that.
And Cleansing is what we need for that. The Next Step is to Moisturise your Face with a High-Quality Moisturiser. Now Make sure that your PM moisturizer is Different from your AM moisturizer.
Guys, In the Morning your Skin has to Deal with Different Sorts of Problems. And for that purpose, you need somewhat Strong or More of a Different Kind of Functions. However, Nighttime is best for healing and you need such kind of Properties inside your moisturizer.
After You are Done Moisturising, You wanna Apply the Eye Cream just like you did in the Morning and The Final Step is to Apply the Vaseline. You don’t want to Apply Lip balm at this time because you are Not Going out so you don’t need protection against the Sun. Thats it.
And thing do not end there.
You wanna take care of your hair as well. I have a list of things that you need to do on the regular basis in order to have the best hair around.
- Do Not Forget to Apply Argan Oil Every Single Day
- Oil Masks are Very Important (Yogurt + Coconut Oil + Egg)
- Do Not Shampoo your Hair Every Day
- Too Much Hair product is Bad for your Hair
- Protect Your Hair From WATER
- Quick Solution for the Oily Scalp (Use Dry Shampoo)
- Get your Haircut Done every 3 Weeks
- Change your Shampoo and Conditioner as well
- Get Rid of the DANDRUFF ASAP (Neutrogena T/Gel Therapeutic Shampoo)
- Shorten your Hair (And Get Rid of MOST hair problems)
- Purchase a Trimmer
- Easily Solution to get rid of Cowlicks
- Avoid Hot Showers
- Purchase a Pocket Hair Product
- Change your Hair Product
- Special Way to Blow Dry your Hair (Head Down Trick)
- Take a Note on the Humidity
- Stress Less
- Avoid Hard Water
- Style your Hair Before Going to Bed
- Learn to Style Hats
Personal Hygiene Tips & Lessons learnt from a Real Alpha
And let’s not forget about the Grooming too. Because at the end of the day you can’t look good if your back hair is growing out of your shirt, and your beard isn’t lined up properly.
You need to go to the barber to get your hair trimmed properly (every 2-3 weeks). And then comes your personal hygiene that also needs to be taken care of. Following is a list of things that you wanna do if you want to feel fresh, clean, and confident as well.
- Ball Powder is a must
- The hair on the back of your head (Not really)
- Cleaning the ear properly
- Massage your arms, hands & feet with a good lotion (plus vaseline)
- Deodorant & Cologne is a must
- Dandruff is a Mess
- No bad breath
- Smelly Feet – An Impression Killer
- Body Hair Care
- Take care of your Nose and Ear Hair. Cheek hair as well
- Learn to Look into the Mirror
- BACK ACNE (BACKNE)
For the explanation of this list checkout: 12 Personal Hygiene Tips for Guys to Look Clean & Confident.
Also Checkout: 24 Essential Grooming Hacks Every Guy Needs to Know.
What so called “Alpha Males” do Instead?
Then come the People, the so-called Alpha males who consider themselves Alpha males by not taking care of their self-care regimen.
They think that being raw is a synonym word to being masculine & Alpha. But it isn’t the reality.
Real Alphas take care of themselves because they understand that there is no such thing as “RAW” when it comes to masculinity. You got to make the tweaks here in order to improve your appearance. You can’t just go out with hair grown wildly, and you smelling like a piece of shit!
That way you are never going to look like an Alpha Male!
Some tips to Smell the best
- Do Not Spray Less (Less isn’t always more).
- Apply Fragrance on the pulse points to make the best out of the application (Click here to know more about the pulse points).
- You got to find out about the right time to apply the fragrance (Click here for that perfect time).
- Don’t be in that “Signature Fragrance” Crew (Purchase multiple perfumes instead).
- Tap it Properly to not ruin your Fragrance Application.
- Carry a Pocket Perfume with you all the time.
- Eau de Toilette, Eau de Parfum, etc (Click here to know more).
- Never be afraid to Go out of Your Comfort Zone.
- Apply it to your Hair (Best tip for you).
- Match your Fragrance with the clothes that you are about to wear.
5: Too loud Body Language
Next in the list of things you think make you look alpha male is, your loud body language.
I have talked about Body language a lot on this Blog. We’ve discussed the right way of walking to look confident and attractive. And we’ve also discussed the proper way to sit & stand as well.
And almost all of those ways require you to level up and open up a little bit.
But then come those men who open up way more than they need to. That’s wrong, cocky, and it is for sure one of those things that make you look weak and weird.
Walking with chest too much out, Pride in the eyes, and sitting with super proud posture, legs opened to the limit, sitting while acquiring too much (more than needed), are things that make you look weak.
Hah? You thought doing that is going to make you look like an alpha male. Incorrect! It makes you look weak instead.
6: “Real Alphas Don’t Take Orders from other Alphas”… Wrong!
Who told that it was an order? My Man was trying to teach you a thing or two related to grooming and fashion. But you refused & stopped him there saying “real alphas don’t take orders”.
You are going to stay stagnant just because of this mindset of yours.
We all need to grow at a constant pace if we really want to stay competitive. And most importantly if your goal is to become an alpha male then you got to learn as much as you can.
Alpha males know things that regular men don’t.
They are financially stable, they know how to live an independent life, they also realize the importance of hustling, and their grooming & self-care regimen is on point.
How can a person become master of these things without learning them from someone? Yes, research counts but 1 on 1 learning has its own benefits that you can’t avoid.
So never say No to the knowledge. You never know which piece of information has the ability to put you on top of the league!
7: Not taking Selfies, thinking that only the Betas do that
You do not take selfies even though you want to take it. But why?
Yes, I myself have listed, “Taking too many selfies” in the list of things that make men look feminine, however, I want you to focus on the word, “too much“.
Posting too many selfies, being obsessed with posting multiple selfies every single day, etc., is one thing.
And then comes your love for taking selfies, in general.
You can’t put these two things under the same category!
A man might want to take a selfie, and that’s perfectly alright! Thinking that taking selfies is what girls or feminine do only, is no doubt one of the things you think make you look alpha male, but in reality, such kind of mindset shows how weak and insecure you are.
8: Standing up for the others even if they don’t want that (Imposed Leadership)
Next in the list of things you think make you look alpha male (you look weak instead) is, “Standing up for others even if they don’t want that.
Being a Leader and representing others is a good thing. It shows that you are a Nice person who speaks for those who can’t speak for themselves due to any specific reason.
But then comes to the so-called Alpha males who think that it is cool & alpha to represent others even if others don’t want any representor. And trust me, this is a very toxic trait.
Ali is happy with the way he is. But there comes Ahmed who thinks that Ali is not given all the things that he deserves. So he decides to take a stand for Ali.
Ali is not so happy with what Ahmed is up to. But Ahmed thinks that Ali is not mature enough to see his rights and wrongs.
For the Freak Sake, Ahmed, Chill!
Don’t be his second father and Please let him live his life. Do you think that taking a stand for others even if they don’t want you to do that, is something that Alpha males do? You are wrong, and most probably this act of yours is making someone’s life, a complete mess! Stop that right now.
9: Throwing the Blame off of your Shoulders
So, You think that throwing the blame on someone’s shoulders to clear yourself makes you look like an Alpha male?
We all make mistakes. It is completely normal.
And then comes people like John, who make mistakes and then put the blame on someone else. They then boast about their ability to get out of the problem without having to suffer from the loss of any kind.
It is a sick mentality to have.
John should be a Man enough to accept the mess that he made. Again, it is completely ok to make mistakes as Human beings make mistakes anyways. Accepting your mistakes is something that makes you brave enough to be called an Alpha male. But keep it in your mind that throwing blame off of your shoulders is one of the things that make you look weak instead!
10: Being Strong even if you are almost dead from the inside
Next in the list of things you think make you look alpha male but in reality, they make you look weak instead is, being strong even if you are not feeling it.
Chances are that it is your company that is making you weak from the inside.
They are roasting you all the time, or maybe you don’t feel like being in this group but you still don’t want to quit because you have been told that Real Men are strong.
Chances are that their is someone in your family that is giving you a very tough time.
Nah! You don’t have to bear it all. You need to speak up for yourself and it is ok to say that, “Yes! This is affecting me and I am weak to bear this shit”.
Don’t pretend to be super strong when in reality you are almost dead from the inside. Trust me, you don’t want to freak up your mental health just because you wanna be a strong man.
A strong man his boundaries and when he has to give a Shut Upcall. That’s what real Alphas are all about. They are the realist ones and that’s exactly what I expect from you as well.
I have talked about the company and its effect on your life, before as well on this blog, on various occasions, a snippet of which is given below.
Change your Company to Increase your Self Confidence
Guys! I know that you have promised yourself that you will do the following things:
- Imagine yourself there
- Forgive your past
- Go Out there and Do It
- Ignore your thoughts and outside environment
But what if I told you that the people who are close to you are one of the main factors involved in you, not becoming self-confident?
Look! We are discussing steps to increase or improve your self-confidence. Right? And the above-given steps were kind of helping you get back on track.
But imagine talking to your friends every single day about it. And Nah! You thought they were supporting you? They are not.
Imagine them being one of those who laugh at you. Imagine them one of those who think that what you are doing is really stupid.
Guess what? If you have such kind of people close to you then your chances of getting on the top and becoming self-confident are very less!
The thing is people who surround us and stay close to us, kinda determine what our future is going to be. You can’t be a successful person being with those who think that every successful person is a gonna go to Hell.
Your Company Determines how your Current year is going to be (on the basis of Performance)
I’ve been talking about this a lot lately. And the reason behind this is the impact that this one thing can have on both your present and future. Let me explain.
So.. you usually hang out with Ali and James. Cool. But are they really worth it? I mean, I have seen both of them doing drugs and being suck a non-serious person all the time.
Look! I am not against “non-serious behavior”. In fact, I’ve witnessed men who were really non-serious, achieving a lot in their life. I understand thats something that’s a part of someone’s nature.
But guess what? You need to get serious as well, at times. You just can’t expect to stay non-serious and then expect life to do wonders. All you get is what you work for.
And even if that isn’t a concern, still, these 2 guys are very spoiled. It’s kind of toxic as they won’t do anything that’s positive.
So yeah, that’s the power of changing the company. I want you to sit with people who believe are hustling as much as you do. And even if you do not believe in hustling much, your company should be fine enough to inspire you to start working hard to achieve the goals and the position where you always imagine yourself to be in.
Toxic People on the other deserve no spot in your Life. Toxicity messes up with your brain, and if somebody never lets you enjoy your life fully or stops you from doing things that you feel, are best for you, then that person needs to go out of your life!
Respect yourself, Bro. You just don’t give any random person or a group of people, so-called Squad, stop you from living a happy and peaceful (mentally) life. If they stop you from hustling (directly or indirectly), if they don’t let you achieve your goals (living a good life), and if their point of view or presence is somehow mentally torturing you then this is the right time to say Good-Bye to them.
11: You use the wrong ways to impress women
I’ve talked about impressing women before as well. For instance, Check out: Impress any Girl: 12 Things You Need to attract a girl in 2021. It will help you a lot.
But then comes the so-called Alpha male who thinks that insulting others in front of a girl is going to impress her.
Boasting about your wealth, showing off loud body language, and doing other similar things, isn’t going to impress a girl.
Instead, it will make you look like a creep. It shows that you are a desperate and weak person, who thinks that putting others down and boasting about your wealth, makes you look attractive. In reality, it makes you look ugly and weak.
12: TELLING People to do things Instead of ASKING them
Showing a Bossy Nature, being dominant for no reason, again, trying to show that you are a dominant person (shows that you are very insecure and weak), and making others do things by kind of telling them to do it, instead of asking them politely is something that shows you have no etiquette.
Alpha males are equipped with an arsenal full of good manners. Alphas are the most Gentlemen human beings you are ever going to meet.
Nah! You have been told everything wrong about them. I know you have been told that Alpha males give orders and that they are rude to people for no reason.
But in reality they are kind and they always ask people to do things politely.
13: Never Appreciating Others
And last but not the least, probably the most important one in this list of things you think make you look alpha male but in reality they make you look weak is to never appreciate others.
Calling high achievers fake and fraud is one of the things that I have seen many “So-Called” Alpha males doing.
It is there jealousy that is making them say such things about those high achievers.
Alpha Male on the other hand appreciates others. They understand that it takes a lot of effort to go on top and for that reason, they respect those who have already achieved that top spot.
It is a sign of power. However on the other hand, not appreciating others, talking shit about them, calling them fake or fraud is something that makes you look weak and insecure.
With that being said, I would like to conclude today’s article. So what are your thoughts about this list of things you think make you look alpha male (you look weak instead)?
Do tell me about your thoughts, suggestions, and comments over at my Instagram (@worldofnyazi). And I will get back to you in another, ASAP,