Hey Guys! I hope you are doing good. In today’s article, we will talk about bad habits yet again. But this time we aren’t talking about just another list of bad habits that you need to get rid of. These are the bad habits that can make people ignore you.
I am pretty sure that you don’t want your friends and family members to start ignoring you. Right? But it is happening already. Isn’t it? They have started avoiding you and you are kind of becoming isolated with every day passed.
What could be the reason behind that? Well, I have been told that you have been doing some things lately. These are the things that you never did before but now that you are doing it every day, you’ve started experiencing this weird behavior of people towards you.
You don’t want that to happen. Right? You don’t want people to ignore you, avoid you, and put you in a blank space. Don’t you worry my friend because your brother has done his research?
Yes! I have already discovered this list of 14 bad habits that every guy needs to ignore if he wants not to be ignored/avoided/isolated. So without any further ado, let’s hop straight into it. Shall we?
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Bad Habits that Make People Ignore you/Things that make people avoid you
- Trying too hard.
- Making people do things that they don’t want to do.
- Never saying yes to their plans.
- Becoming the “unwanted” leader.
- You’ve become different.
- You are all about yourself only.
- Being a critic.
- You never worked on yourself.
- Zero communication skills.
- Constantly reminding them of their mistakes.
- Lying all the time.
- Staying the same.
- They are wrong!
That’s pretty much it. The above-given list of things is the reason why they are ignoring you. So without any further ado, let’s discuss each one of these in detail now. Shall we?
1: Trying too hard.
You are laughing at their jokes that aren’t even funny. What do you really think? Do you believe that those guys will accept you or start taking you seriously just because of all of this that you are doing?
You laughing at their lame jokes, and trying too hard to become part of their group is something that will make you look like a needy person. These are the things that make people ignore you.
You definitely don’t want that to happen. Do you? So just be real and natural. Yes, do spend time with them and engage in conversations. But make sure that you are forcing yourself onto them. You don’t want them to start hating you after all. Right?
The key here is to not look as if you are a super clingy person. Plus you don’t need to fake yourself to become part of this group because I am pretty sure that you can do much better than that. Your perfect clan is waiting for you and that isn’t the one you’ve been trying to become part of. They are much better than these guys.
2: Making people do things that they don’t want to do.
They don’t want this. They don’t want you to bother them again and again. Let me explain.
Let’s say you borrowed this guy’s phone one day because you wanted to take a couple of photos. Cool. It happens. Everyone does that.
But you do this all the time now. You take this guy’s phone all the time just to take photos and stuff like that. He has started getting annoyed now. He for sure wants you to stop using his phone because you’ve been borrowing his phone way too much now.
What should you do now? Should you stop using his phone? For sure.
Look, whatever the reason is, you need to look at the first for the signals. People who don’t want you to do certain things show the uneasiness on their faces. All you need to do is to see the signals clearly and you will be able to understand what they don’t want you to do.
After all, it isn’t your phone anyways.
Plus it isn’t about the phone only. It could be about anything. You could be teasing this dude every single day, or bothering him while he is busy working out. All of the things that can annoy a person, could be the reason why they’ve started ignoring you!
3: Never saying yes to their plans.
The next one on the list of Bad Habits that Make People Ignore you/Things that make people avoid you is, never saying yes to their plans.
I know that you should never be doing what you don’t want to do. However, if you want to be part of a group then you can’t always say “No” to the plans that are made with mutual understanding. Let me explain.
Let’s say your group made this plan of hanging out. They all decided to go on a trip. Perfect. What next?
You don’t want to go so you decided to come up with an excuse. Maybe you said No to them politely and yeah, everybody was very cooperative.
But then you started saying No to all of their plans. Be it whatever, the only you had was “No”.
Guess what? When you never say yes to the plans that are made by the agreement of everybody, then you are indirectly increasing your chances of isolation.
Let’s be real guys. Why would they want to be friends with a person who never says yes to any of their plans?
Alright, it is completely your choice. You don’t like the ideas that they come up with? Perfectly fine. Maybe you don’t have time to follow their plans or something. In that case, you need to look for some other group of people to hang out with. A group that is more like you, in terms of business, lifestyle, etc.
Whatever the case is, this group that you are currently in, The group “A”, isn’t going to welcome you warmly and they are going to ignore you, and avoid you because of the obvious reasons.
4: Becoming the “unwanted” leader.
They don’t want a leader my friend.
Alright, so you agreed to their plans. Perfect. But you want everything to go your way. Chances are that you do this all the time.
Whenever something is decided, you become the leading person and their faces show a clear annoyingness which I don’t know why you never noticed.
Guys! It is cool to become the leader but at the end of the day, your crew needs to accept that first. But you are becoming the leader without them wanting it. Can’t you see that they are hating all of this? They don’t want you to lead them, whatsoever.
Chances are that they don’t want to be lead. Whatever the case is, this habit of yours, to come up with the plans by yourself and imposing them afterward, is the reason behind them ignoring you and avoiding you as well.
Becoming the leader is a good idea only if the crew wants the same. If they don’t want to be lead and you still want to lead then things are going to go on the negative side of the spectrum.
5: You’ve become different.
All of you guys used to do nothing. Maybe you all were just hanging around, wasting time, and having fun only.
But you don’t want to be that person anymore. Chances are that you’ve already started doing great things. You have started your own business, and you’ve become a much more responsible person than the one you were before.
What about your crew though? I have been seeing that they are ignoring you. They are avoiding because you preach the same things to them as well. You want them to grow along with you. I agree that you are preaching them all the good things but it is all about the mindset. You just can’t change a person by preaching to them your ideology and other plans.
The only thing that is going to happen is that they are going to start ignoring you because I guess they have started believing that you are not the person that you were before.
It might hurt and you might have to change your crew, best friends, crime partners, and whatnot. Look guys, it is what it is. You have two choices to make. You either leave your goals and ambitions aside or you quit this crew of yours.
6: You are all about yourself only.
Hah? Your favorite topic is “You”.
I did this
I did that
There were all the cool dudes and then I showed up and stole the entire show!
Will you please shut your mouth? I mean, why do you have nothing else to say? Are you all about yourself only?
Guys! Talking all the time plus talking about yourself only, are the things that make people hate you. If you are all about your achievements, positive points, and why people should start loving you even more, then you most probably are going to repel people away (guaranteed).
I know that everybody wants to hear about themselves. They love to hear good things about themselves but it goes both ways. You need to start listening to them as well if you want them to talk about you.
Oh wait. So you are telling me that you listen to them as well. But when do you do that? You listen to them only when the topic is about you. Woohoo! Congratulations, you’ve become a good listener.
Stop this nonsense, my friend. Guys! You got to stop centralizing yourself in the conversation and start focusing on the things that matter. Try shifting the conversation from yourself to the other things around you that are interesting to the general public. If you won’t do that then people will get bored of you (because the only thing that you have to say revolves around yourself only) and then they are going to start ignoring/avoiding you.
7: Being a critic.
I get that. I know that you try to be actually good to that person. You don’t want them to stay on the wrong side and for that reason, you criticize their every freaking move.
Hah? Guess what? Doing that is only going to make them avoid you and ignore the heck out of you.
You think that you are their well-wisher and they need a person like you because nobody in the world will guide them except you. Well, that ain’t the truth. They are not getting the message that you’ve been trying to send. All they are looking at is a person who criticizes their every move. You are sort of becoming toxic for them.
And write it down my friend, nobody wants to spend their time with a toxic person. Do criticize them, I am not saying that you need to stop saying what the truth is. But please maintain the balance. Just don’t criticize all the time. It is always a good idea to balance things for your good, of course. Because if you won’t, they are going to ignore you, and then you are going to see yourself in a place where there is nothing else but yourself only.
The next one on the list of Bad Habits that Make People Ignore you/Things that make people avoid you is negativity.
You are a very negative person. The only thing you see in a situation is the negative side of it. Maybe you try to be realistic in all the scenarios but guess what? You are becoming pessimistic and thats very unattractive.
Guys! We all know that nobody wants to stay with a person who is always saying negative things and speaking out things that create an ora of sadness. Everyone’s sad anyway. Why are you becoming yet another reason for a person’s sadness?
Just stop this nonsense of yours and please try to see good in every situation. Trust me, it is all about first seeing the good and then trying to make that “good”, reality.
But how are you going to make that “good” reality if the only thing you are seeing is “bad” or “negative” only? Yeah, that’s exactly what I am talking about boys.
9: You never worked on yourself.
Don’t get me wrong but guys, it is what it is.
We all want to be around a person who has a personality, looks good, has good confidence, etc.
But there you are who has none of that. Why do you do believe that they are going to make much effort to keep you as their friend? I know that by the end of the day, it is all about staying trying to yourself and being who you are.
However, you need to understand that a person who has an attractive reality is much better than a person who hasn’t been practicing great things on the regular basis.
Nobody can ignore a person who:
- Has great confidence.
- Looks good.
- Takes care of himself.
- Has great set of skills and personality.
So, guys, the key here is to start working on yourself to stand out from the crowd. Because you start doing that, people are never going to be able to ignore you, whatsoever.
10: You lack communication skills.
Another very important thing why people often ignore/avoid you is communication skills, which you haven’t mastered yet.
Let’s say you cracked a joke but your delivery was so bad that it came out as something negative. Or maybe you tried to say something but since you used the wrong words or the wrong tone, the entire thing looked as if you were trying to be negative or something.
It happens to all of us. And these little things when compile, become a solid reason for people to start ignoring you and avoiding you for their good.
I won’t blame them in this case because everybody needs to master communication skills. After all, without them, you aren’t going to achieve good things in life.
You need good communication skills if you want to persuade people, impress somebody, change your image, convey a message, etc. You can find their application in almost every walk of life. So please don’t ignore them and start learning about them right away.
11: Constantly reminding them of their mistakes.
Are you somebody who constantly reminds people of their mistakes?
Maybe they did wrong to you this one time or maybe you made a mistake when you started this business of yours in the past, and now you are reminding them of that thing again and again.
Maybe you are being a critic (that I have already talked about above) or chances are it is a part of your nature that you just can’t forget an incident.
Whatever the case is, you are being very toxic. I mean, look, he is already struggling way too much. He wants to forget the entire thing but you are raising that point again and again, for whatever reason. Just because of you, his confidence level is quite low, and he can’t make a solid decision.
Just shut your mouth and go away. I am so happy that this dude has started avoiding you and ignoring you because I would do the same. He started doing that late though. I would stop you on day one.
Look! I am your brother and I know for a fact that being toxic isn’t a good thing at all. It will leave you with nobody but yourself only and I am sure you don’t want that to happen. Do you?
Ok, so you do want to become a positive person again? The one you used to be before? Don’t worry, your brother has got you covered in that area as well. Checkout: 18 Signs You are Toxic to Others (Identify your Negativity), to become a super positive person yet again.
12: Lying all the time.
The next one on the list of Bad Habits that Make People Ignore you/Things that make people avoid you is lying to them.
Are you a liar? Do you make promises and then break them all the time? If yes then please don’t ask me the reason why they’ve started ignoring you.
They have had enough of your lying self. You make promises, give assurance and then you forget about that. It has become a habit of yours to lie to people. Guess what? It ain’t going to do any good to you.
You need to understand that it will leave you with nobody else but yourself only which I am sure you don’t want.
13: Staying the same.
Everybody changed. They all have become better people except for yourself. But why though? Why haven’t you upgraded?
Well, let me tell you something. I know that you have a solid belief in your perspectives and your thinking style but just like Point number #5, if you’ve become different than your group members, be it a degradation or an upgrade, you are going to start seeing a solid different in their behavior.
Let’s just say they have become a better person. They worked on their personality, outlook, etc. But you still believe that all of what they are doing is girlish and a man should stay raw.
Well, Nah, you are being a fake alpha, nothing else. This habit of yours is the reason why your crew has started ignoring you. They just can’t handle your stagnant self anymore.
14: They are wrong!
It isn’t always about you.
Maybe you are being the best that you can but they still aren’t welcoming you. They are avoiding you without any reason. Let it be boys.
Not everybody can become part of every crew. We all have our own set of beliefs and you just can’t become part of every group because of this set of beliefs.
Plus you don’t want to be forcefully part of a group anyways. So just enjoy being yourself and wait for the right group. Or maybe work your way to the top… Who knows your group is waiting for you to come up there.
Let’s see what happens…
With that being said, I would like to conclude today’s article. So what are your thoughts about it? I want to hear from you. Let me know about your thoughts, suggestions, and feedback, around the list of Bad Habits that Make People Ignore you/Things that make people avoid you, over at my Instagram (@worldofnyazi). And I will come back to you in another one,